According to the American Cancer Society, three out of every four American families will have at least one family member diagnosed with cancer. Trying to manage fears of a loved one’s mortality, the changing family roles, having your own needs met, and uncertainty about saying the right words at the right time are all totally normal responses that can easily surface when someone you love is diagnosed.
Often, there is a feeling of inadequacy along with the feeling that there are words out there, and if you only knew what the ‘magic words’ were, you could make the patient feel better. There can also be a profound feeling of helplessness, of not knowing what to do as you struggle to comprehend your own feelings, and, at the same time, provide reassurance and support. Remember, you don’t have to be perfect.
Although every woman and every situation is different, we offer some help passed along by people who have been in the position you find yourself in now.
Be aware. Be patient. Even though the obvious struggles are over, it is still on her mind. You don’t need to ask pointed questions (“Will you be getting more treatment?”). Just ask how she’s doing and then, as we said earlier, LISTEN.
If you have questions about breast reconstruction, my staff and I are happy to help. By working with a team of Southern California's most experienced breast reconstruction surgeons, radiologists, and nurses, we are able to provide women with the best possible options for one of the most life-changing and rewarding surgeries. Please contact us online or call (949) 759-0980 for more information.
Dr. Savalia is known for the most innovative, advanced breast reconstruction techniques. He is a board certified plastic surgeon and artist who creates the most natural, elegant, personalized aesthetic results. He is as renown for his care and compassion as he is for extraordinary outcomes. This is why he was named one of Orange County’s Physicians of Excellence by his peers.
Dr. Savalia’s Breast Health Center team includes the finest oncologists, radiation specialists, geneticists, and nurse navigators. Being cared for by an established team is a great advantage for patients.
"I prefer a light-handed approach that leaves my patients looking visibly rejuvenated, not surgically enhanced."